18 Feb Calling All Grumpy Moms
You know the feeling all to well. You wish you hadn’t slammed that door. You wish you’d used a nicer tone of voice. You know you need to be sweet, but you’re just not feeling it. Well you’ve got a case of the Grumpy Pants! (At least that’s what we’ll call it for now). Everyone in the house is miserable just because you’re cranky. And then, when you finally realize that you are the one setting the unpleasant mood, you aren’t quite sure how to get yourself out of it.
Sadly, I find myself feeling like this more often than not. What’s worse is that later I end up regretting how I treated others around me. But how do I pull myself out of this funk? How do I get out of this vicious cycle? I decided to dig deeper and investigate the true causes of my grouchiness. I quickly discovered that there were 4 common culprits and I’m sure every
grumpy mom can relate.
Photos- Best Case Scenarios by Danielle Guenther
1- I’M OVERWHELMED
Yes, I said it! I admit it! I. Am. Overwhelmed. Why is it so difficult for women to say it? Why is it that we feel the need to be “Super Woman” and do everything. Sometimes there are more things that need to be done in a day than will reasonably fit into a 24 hour period, and we attempt to do it all. Or maybe due to our busy schedule the house has turned into Ground Zero and you don’t see how you can possibly put it back together, especially when you’re interrupted every few minutes by a voice calling “Mommmy” or there’s a WWE sibling match that needs to be addressed. It all begins to close in on you and you find your sunshine dimming by the minute. You wish everybody would just
shut-up stop, and when they don’t, you want to explode.
What to do:
First, STOP. Take a TIME OUT.
Tell everyone “Mommy needs 5 minutes in her room.” Give the children something fun to do, and make sure they have a specific place to be so they don’t wreck the house. Then RUN to a quite place and spend some time alone, even if it’s only for a few minutes. Take some deep breaths and let your heart rate slow down. Take just a minute to pray and ask God to help you with your attitude. Ask Him for wisdom to understand what your priorities should be at this time.
Second, ASK for HELP.
There’s no shame in asking for help. We all need it and shouldn’t be afraid to acknowledge the fact that we can’t do it all. Don’t feel guilty about it and don’t expect others to read your mind. If you don’t ask, how will anyone else know. Let others help out.
Third, REMOVE items OFF your plate.
Whatever it is, eliminate it. Learn to lighten your load of things that can wait, and you will remove the entire reason for feeling grumpy. Problem solved!
2- EVERYONE IS IRRITATING ME
There are times, in spite of every effort you’ve made to serve your family with a good attitude, they seem intent on making your day dreadful. As you try to think of what might have gone wrong, you honestly cannot think of anything. It just feels like they’re trying to KILL you! On those days, it only seems right to be grumpy. But really, is that what you want to be? Not me!!!
What to do:
Sometimes children just need our attention. Our minds can easily get occupied on housework or other things, and they’re just crying out for us to STOP and pay attention to them too. When that happens, it’s usually a good idea to take a break from everything else and go outside and play with the kids. I know this can be difficult, especially cause when my daughter is purposely annoying me, the last thing I want to do is spend more time with her, but once I do things get better. Her behavior usually improves, and if nothing else, it gives me a chance to enjoy her childhood moments. It also helps me change my focus to how cute she is rather than how irritating her whining is.
3- I’M EXHAUSTED
Enough said! I don’t know about you, but I find myself perpetually tired. And I’m tired of being tired!
What to do:
Get some good rest! I know it’s tempting to stay up late when the house is (finally!) quiet, but you”ll be glad you got some sleep instead. This is something I really struggle with, being a night owl and all. That’s why I end up paying for it in the mornings, when I can barely function. I wake up in a bad mood, which inevitably leads to the epic battles with my five year-old to get out of the house on time for school. However, if you’re getting plenty of sleep at night and still finding yourself incredibly tired all the time, you should seek medical help. Sometimes extreme, unexplained fatigue is the result of underlying physical problems. If you’re experiencing this, it isn’t normal, and you should visit a doctor to get some help.
4- EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES
Sometimes there are external circumstances that are completely out of our control. A divorce, a loss of a loved one, financial stress, whatever it is, it can affect how you feel when you’re with your family. Not only can we allow those circumstances to take our joy but we can also allow them to take over our lives, which reflects on how we treat others.
What to do:
Talk to someone. I know this feeling all too well and too many times I’ve allowed my circumstances to take over my life. It wasn’t until I went to see a counselor/therapist that I realized how much these things were actually affecting my mood. It doesn’t make you crazy or weak, the not seeing someone might. Therefore, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. Trust me, you’ll feel much better and everyone will benefit from it. Happy mom, happy kids!
So which of these can you relate too? What are some of the things that leave you feeling less than happy?